1. What are some lessons you've learned about mental health that you wish you knew earlier?
That it's okay to ask for help when you're feeling overwhelmed or depressed. So often, Black men are taught that we can't show weakness, but having people you trust know what's going on with you goes a long way
2. Men are often less likely to talk about their feelings. How do you create and maintain an environment where emotional expression is encouraged?
I have found that being honest about my own emotional state and articulate about my feelings naturally cultivates an environment of emotional expression.
3. Sometimes, setbacks can impact our mental health. Can you share a time you faced a significant challenge and how you overcame it?
I faced significant challenges with double hip replacement surgeries close together while managing farm responsibilities. I felt constantly overwhelmed and defeated, struggling to keep up with the demands despite my physical limitations. I found immense support and clarity in discussing my struggles with my wife. Her perspective and encouragement helped me realize that it was okay to slow down and prioritize my recovery. Gradually, I learned to accept the pace dictated by my body and to be patient with myself. This shift in mindset allowed me to cut myself some slack and find a new balance between recuperating and managing farm duties. Over time, I was able to navigate through this difficult phase and regain my strength, both physically and mentally.
4. What's one piece of advice you would give to men who are struggling with their mental health?
Go talk to someone. If you are nervous about or are unable to speak to a professional, start with the people you trust and admire. But seeking professional help goes a long way. They often offer a perspective you might not see on your own. Regardless, you can't defeat your demons on your own.
5. 87 is a number that symbolizes passion. What's your 87, and how do you channel that into wellness?
My family. It's easy for men to feel isolated and alone, even from their families, especially when we are focused on providing a safe and secure life for them. Keeping an open and honest line of communication with my wife and children about my physical and emotional state gives me accountability and keeps me from feeling alone. It's good to know I have people who are just as committed to my well-being as I am to theirs.